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heartsbeating · 06-01-2012, 08:50 PM

I think the challenge of letting go of this 'fun-flirt' business is related to low self esteem and maturity.

I'm more for a direct approach in handling situations. It doesn't mean you need to be ungracious. Really though, being so taken with your wife's presence that you wouldn't even notice others speaks volumes to your wife. (And to other women). To me at least, there's nothing more appealing than knowing your husband is listening to you and is captivated by you.

To deflect the compliments you're receiving by diverting them back to your wife, could actually still be a flirtation technique in a way, whether that's your intention or not. Sure it might signal to many that your interest is in her but to others it might be a challenge to overcome as they may want that attention from you for themselves. I'd also question why that's happening in the first place.

This all stems back to your behavior.

06-01-2012, 08:50 PM	#2 (permalink)
heartsbeating Member Join Date: May 2011 Location: Batcave Posts: 4,302	Re: Taking care of the harpies I think the challenge of letting go of this 'fun-flirt' business is related to low self esteem and maturity. I'm more for a direct approach in handling situations. It doesn't mean you need to be ungracious. Really though, being so taken with your wife's presence that you wouldn't even notice others speaks volumes to your wife. (And to other women). To me at least, there's nothing more appealing than knowing your husband is listening to you and is captivated by you. To deflect the compliments you're receiving by diverting them back to your wife, could actually still be a flirtation technique in a way, whether that's your intention or not. Sure it might signal to many that your interest is in her but to others it might be a challenge to overcome as they may want that attention from you for themselves. I'd also question why that's happening in the first place. This all stems back to your behavior. __________________ "Victims; aren't we all" - The Crow Last edited by heartsbeating; 06-01-2012 at 08:57 PM.