Originally Posted by tigergirl
Sorry. A little more background. She has always played the part of poor poor "T". Everybody always felt sorry for her for having to deal with DH back when they were together. Before the older daughter died, she would call him with minor, mundane, handle it your self problems ALL the time. She's just totally inept or lazy.
Also recently she has been trying to get disability benefits. For what, I don't know. There's nothing physically wrong with her. And it's not like she's ever worked anyway.
How does she support herself if she doesn't work? Is your H her "meal ticket"?
Yes, I agree with others here and see how this is making you feel uncomfortable. She holds the "mother of his children" card. She also now holds the "shared grief" card. Your H seems like a nice guy, trying not to make waves, and she sure knows how to take advantage of that, leaving you out of the picture.
I assume that you shared your feelings about this with your H, and so long as there is a living child in the picture, they will continue to communicate with each other. Hopefully about the child. If not, you should let him know that conversation on other topics, and silly picture sharing, will not be tolerated by you. It hurts you. It concerns you. You are his current W.
Sometimes men just don't understand the subtle ways of women who are looking to disrupt their lives for some purpose. Women have better instincts about other women than men do. Unfortunately you will have to get involved in all future conversation until her true motives are known to your H, then he should handle it.