Originally Posted by Jimena
One time we make plans to go out dancing me raul, sophie and raul's old roommate. I dance with his roommate mostly, but after I tried to get more than two dances with raul, she got really upset.
By not bring your husband with you on this double date, you were telling her two things. One, was that you have weak marital boundaries. And two, since you were not there with your husband or for Raul's roommate or her, you were there for her man. That is how she saw it and she did the right thing to protect her relationship with her man.
Here is a thought. Did it ever occur to you that you might be wrong here and that Raul may have always had a thing for you. That maybe Raul hung around you hoping that you would dump your long distance relationship so that he would have a chance. If he was truthful to her about this then she would be nuts to allow your friendship to continue with him. Ironically, if she had posted on this forum instead of you, many people would have advised her to read the book "Not Just Friends".