| | Re: emotional affair advice
You will do what you do, it is your life after all----
2 things to do in re: her potential lover---contact his wife, tell her what kind of crap he is pulling with other women, go to HR, where your wife works, and tell them, he is hitting on multiple women, at work, and trying to break up their mge,s---they will deal with this cuz, what he is doing will mess up the work environment---and could cause them to lose good employees, such as what you are being forced to suggest to your wife, and possibly be involved in law suits if THEY do nothing.
As to you and your wife----She has already told him she likes him at some level, now he is like an unleashed dog---and he IS gonna keep on trying---he knows what he wants
Your wife is not protective of her mge/family, in that she will not agree to NC, which requires her to find another job-----offer her a one time solution to that, and put a tight time limit on it
She herself goes to H R, at work, and complains of sexual harassment----if they do not act on it, quickly, then she must leave---This is a middle of the road solution, that she should have no trouble with---if she refuses, then your mge., has a major problem
You need to find out where your wife's head is, and you better not wait very long----happily married wife's/mothers may feel an urge in re: other men---anyone who is normal, has urges---BUT THEY DO NOT ACT ON THEM---your wife has told this guy she likes him, and set him loose, he WILL PURSUE, till she weakens and he gets what he wants, cuz she refuses NC.
To protect your family/mge---you better start putting your foot down and HARD-----she needs to know from this day forward, there will be actionable consequences to her acting on her "like" for him
Lastly you MUST deal with your wife, in that she is telling other men, that she likes them---that can help NOTHING, it has/is tearing you apart, and either she doesn't care or understand, and that ain't good for this mge. either----SOMETHING DOES HAVE TO BE DONE, YESTERDAY