| | Re: emotional affair advice
YOU MUST INFORM THE OM'S WIFE IMMEDIATELY.
By not doing this you are sending a clear message to him that you do not mind him asking your wife to have an affair with him. Your wife needs to look for another job if possible. It is clear that she is jealous when he flirts with another woman. If the roles were reversed do you honestly think your wife would be so accepting as you have been?
I am sorry to say that she is disrespecting you and your marriage. No consequences to her actions equals no motivation to change.