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Russell · 05-06-2008, 10:36 PM

Well... talk to my wife.

She did the SAME thing to me that your doing with your husband.

EXACT same situation, nearly. I am a recovering alcoholic. I stopped drinking the day she told me about Chuck... the man I would love to watch die. And not lift a finger to help. I no longer trust my wife. And she has A LOT to do in order for me to trust her again. She also has stipulations on me as well.

1. We move to another state.
2. I don't drink.
3. I quite smoking.

I am cool with all of this. However... only way I am going to do this is if I get back into the Army. I will do anything for her, and yes, even risk my life (considering we're at war.... yhea, risk my life is not an exageration). Now, considering I am already on your husbands end of the stick... I'm telling you right now, if you didn't come out and say to the guy "I feel that I am drifting away from you and I do not feel like I am in love with you anymore" then you didn't give him fair notice of this.... and you are being more than just adulterous. You are being a backstabber. Sex is one thing... but you fell in love with Bob... and thats where the betrayal is. Personally, I think sex should be like a handshake. Falling in love with him, thats unforgivable.

If youw ant to try to work thngs out with your husband.... then get rid of Bob completely. If you want Bob, then get rid of your husband completely. The choice is simple... but don't live your life for your children. you must think only of yourself, and noone else. But if hubby takes you for everything you own.... hey you did it to yourself. And don't expect my sympathy. Oh yhea.... and how long have you known Bob? Can you really trust him? Considering only a few months.... I dunno, and if he's already being standoffish... Wow. Thats not what I would call a good relationship anywyas.

05-06-2008, 10:36 PM	#2 (permalink)
Russell Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 58	Re: Torn Well... talk to my wife. She did the SAME thing to me that your doing with your husband. EXACT same situation, nearly. I am a recovering alcoholic. I stopped drinking the day she told me about Chuck... the man I would love to watch die. And not lift a finger to help. I no longer trust my wife. And she has A LOT to do in order for me to trust her again. She also has stipulations on me as well. 1. We move to another state. 2. I don't drink. 3. I quite smoking. I am cool with all of this. However... only way I am going to do this is if I get back into the Army. I will do anything for her, and yes, even risk my life (considering we're at war.... yhea, risk my life is not an exageration). Now, considering I am already on your husbands end of the stick... I'm telling you right now, if you didn't come out and say to the guy "I feel that I am drifting away from you and I do not feel like I am in love with you anymore" then you didn't give him fair notice of this.... and you are being more than just adulterous. You are being a backstabber. Sex is one thing... but you fell in love with Bob... and thats where the betrayal is. Personally, I think sex should be like a handshake. Falling in love with him, thats unforgivable. If youw ant to try to work thngs out with your husband.... then get rid of Bob completely. If you want Bob, then get rid of your husband completely. The choice is simple... but don't live your life for your children. you must think only of yourself, and noone else. But if hubby takes you for everything you own.... hey you did it to yourself. And don't expect my sympathy. Oh yhea.... and how long have you known Bob? Can you really trust him? Considering only a few months.... I dunno, and if he's already being standoffish... Wow. Thats not what I would call a good relationship anywyas. __________________ Hi, my name is Russ, and I'm a recovering alcoholic. Sober since 27 March, 2008. Last edited by Russell; 05-06-2008 at 10:39 PM.