| | Re: One year ago this month he had a ONS...FML!!!!
You guys need counseling. You need to find a place that does sliding scale or free work like a church group.
He did this. My husband is an alcoholic... he had a drunken black out ONS. He didn't stalk a woman. You're taking out anger on this woman that should be taken out on him. She didn't stalk him, he did this. I personally I don't like to hear my husband say I'm sorry I cheated on you. He knows what he did.
He wants you to get past it because it's hurting him to see you hurt. This wasn't a oops I didn't realize what was happening thing. You both need to realize that, and he needs to stop contacting her completely. There is no need for it. And why you would even want to be in contact with her is beyond me. I'm also confused because I thought you were moving? I'm guessing you're back in the original town?
Find counseling, there is free or low cost counseling out there, you both need to go, or you need to go by yourself until you can walk away.