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Originally Posted by frustratedinphx
I won't wake up a few years down the road back at point A thinking "I can't believe I fell for it again. How dumb am I?"
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Been there and done that. Don't go there. You are still a hot chicky. After 20 years in the situation you have described I am no longer a hot chicky. Life is too long for a bad marriage.
I will say this - life does NOT need marriage. YES - marriage can be wonderful. I have seen people who know the knack and thrive in marriage. I think, if TWO people are motivated they can learn the marriage knack. But never make the mistake that you have to be married. No matter how appealing your friend looks - back away. What you see now is fresh fruit compared to a rotten apple. It all looks good now. But your vision is clouded by the situation you are in. Trying to persue your friend now would just leave you in a worse off place emotionally.
Take a break and swear off men (not hate them - just step away) until you get your head on straight and your house in order. You will do your marriage a favor if you stay and will do your self a favor if you divorce.