Originally Posted by cocovas09
well.. its still a messed up situation... but i can see why she's emailing the creepy guy.. he's paying your bills. if she says nothing to him and ignores him.. it will affect her income. think about being a business owner and being rude to a customer.. do you think he/she will ever come back? her body is her business... if she wants to stay profitable she's gotta entertain her clients.. that's what they're there for.
i think as long as she's a dancer you will always have these problems. id focus less on emails and more on big picture. if the money isnt that great and you dont need it then help her get out. even verbal encouragement goes a long way, "baby.. i'd be so proud of you if you worked at ____. want me to help you with your resume?"
maybe remind her that it's time to grow up.. she's married now.. it's time to act like it. and that means only showing her goodies to her hubs. at some point she's going to get older and gravity will take its toll... tell her that she has more to contribute. maybe ask her why she's so connected to this profession? it's not money.. maybe it's attention? there's some root reason why she's not quitting.
I know what you mean but the fact is that these customers will go to the clubs regardless of her emailing them or not and it's just this one customer, I doubt he even spends that much and we did agree that her work stays at work and she wouldn't be in contact with them outside of work. Also, I think it encourages unhealthy behaviour, she's already had one guy attempt to stalk her and I think by making things too personal that it just encourages that kind of thing.