Originally Posted by daggeredheart
You know I reflect on this question a lot. In the midst of the discovery, when he was gone (at my request) and as I terrified and hurt as I was, there was a spark in my soul that imagined a life without him. A way to start over. A new beginning even though it was covered with fear, sadness and confusion.
Maybe it's a coping mechanism to deal with loss?? I hope I don't regret it overall but some days I damn sure do.
I would love to hear that stat as well.
That is why I decided to file for divorce. The fact that when he was upset about something in his life, he turned to another woman.
It is obvious this woman was looking to change out her husband. My STBEH claims he could not see that.
But I think that is Bull. We were having huge fights while he was seeing her and at one point he asked me to divorce him.
He denies saying that now. But he did and to my mind it meant he was thinking of changing me out, too.
Those words will always be between us. I don't think I will ever trust him and be comfortable that he is watching my back as a spouse should.
He already proved that he was willing to stab me in the back. Why should I ever trust him.
As Iheart said somewhere else. The sex with someone else is terrible, but the lies and the ongoing lies is really what bothers me the most.
I mean seriously, when I teased him about staying away from other women on his boy's night's out, this guy many times looked me right in the eye, ruffled my hair and assured me that he would never cheat on me.
And then he left the house to spend money on her, while I sat at home.