happilymarried67

I think that middle ground is always best. I think councilling could help you both. I know it is hurting your children so you need to let them with their dad often. I am a full time stepmom to two beautiful sons. They moved in with us when they were 2 and 4, it was easier on them and they have forgotten most of the bad times during the adjustment of being with my husband and I fulltime. As for marriage it has its ups and downs and if you both want this marriage to work it can. If his heart isn't in this relationship any longer I don't know if councelling is going to work. But you might need one just to help you through this. Stand tall, don't be a weepy lady it isn't becoming to you in the least, and it isn't going to make anything better. Instead of crying focus the energy on helping you and you children get through this tough time. Be positive for yourself and you children. Look at this as an experience that could actually help your marriage last and put your heart into making it better, direct the sad energy to making your life better for you.

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