Originally Posted by Barnowl

There is no R in our marriage. She made it very clear that we are not working toward reconciliation. In fact, she rejects that word altogether.

This is starting from the ground floor. I told her I think that she has an EA going with the other man, and you are right that I have no moral grounds to stop it.

If she slept with someone else, even for revenge, I wouldn't call it cheating at this point. There is no marriage to cheat on. The best I can hope is that she doesn't fall in love with someone else, and perhaps we can bring a union back together with just she and I in the end...

To your last comment, I don't think ANYTHING will alleviate the severity of my cheating. In fact, at times I am afraid of our future life together because I know that this will change the rest of our lives. Together or separated in the end, this situation that I have put us in will change the course of both of our lives forevor.