Originally Posted by Barnowl
There is no R in our marriage. She made it very clear that we are not working toward reconciliation. In fact, she rejects that word altogether.
This is starting from the ground floor. I told her I think that she has an EA going with the other man, and you are right that I have no moral grounds to stop it.
If she slept with someone else, even for revenge, I wouldn't call it cheating at this point. There is no marriage to cheat on. The best I can hope is that she doesn't fall in love with someone else, and perhaps we can bring a union back together with just she and I in the end...
To your last comment, I don't think ANYTHING will alleviate the severity of my cheating. In fact, at times I am afraid of our future life together because I know that this will change the rest of our lives. Together or separated in the end, this situation that I have put us in will change the course of both of our lives forevor.
well I hate to say this but I don't think there's much hope for your marriage, as long as that EA continues she will happily stay separated and not divorced for you to finance her affair, she will cake eat as much as you did and maybe moreso