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JustMe · 08-30-2007, 10:53 PM

Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus!! I got that book when we first got married and it really helped me to realize that men's and women's minds (generally/usually) work VERY differently. You'd think that would be a no-brainer, but sometimes we wives forget that. For instance, we expect you guys to "just understand" that when we're PMSed we need to be left alone/be held/scream/etc...LOL I know, it's totally silly, but sometimes that's the way we think. Another one: My husband grabs my butt all the time...I should be thrilled that he thinks I'm sexy, right?? Well, sometimes it makes me feel like a piece of meat. I know he doesn't think of me that way, but I've been treated like that by men for a long time, and I hate it. I have to remind myself that it's his way of letting me know he's attracted to me still.

I'm in college full time and the boys have Baseball and JROTC and friends and all the other stuff that comes with kids, so by the end of the day, I'm exhausted!! However, I also know that my husband works very hard all day too, and I need to be understanding of his moods, just as I "expect" him to be of mine.

I know I rambled, sorry. I hope it made some sense.

PS we have "date night" at LEAST once a month....no kids, just us. Usually dinner and a movie. It's wonderful! Try it!

08-30-2007, 10:53 PM	#6 (permalink)
JustMe Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Florida Posts: 57	Re: strenuous relationship with my wife: to all the husbands of the world Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus!! I got that book when we first got married and it really helped me to realize that men's and women's minds (generally/usually) work VERY differently. You'd think that would be a no-brainer, but sometimes we wives forget that. For instance, we expect you guys to "just understand" that when we're PMSed we need to be left alone/be held/scream/etc...LOL I know, it's totally silly, but sometimes that's the way we think. Another one: My husband grabs my butt all the time...I should be thrilled that he thinks I'm sexy, right?? Well, sometimes it makes me feel like a piece of meat. I know he doesn't think of me that way, but I've been treated like that by men for a long time, and I hate it. I have to remind myself that it's his way of letting me know he's attracted to me still. I'm in college full time and the boys have Baseball and JROTC and friends and all the other stuff that comes with kids, so by the end of the day, I'm exhausted!! However, I also know that my husband works very hard all day too, and I need to be understanding of his moods, just as I "expect" him to be of mine. I know I rambled, sorry. I hope it made some sense. PS we have "date night" at LEAST once a month....no kids, just us. Usually dinner and a movie. It's wonderful! Try it!