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heatbrokenmom · 05-07-2008, 06:59 PM

I have tried over the past several days to give my husband space, not argue but at the same time my heart feels like it's exploding and I am so miserable without him. Last night he sat down with me and said we should talk. He has been gone for 3 weeks and does not miss me. He thought he would but he doesn't. I didn't know what to say, who does? He still is willing to go to talk to someone because he feels that we argue too much and that with everything changing we need to work on that for us and the kids. I agree. But, I don't agree that this is the right thing to do. Being together for 10 years and then just not even trying to see if any feelings can be regained to me is just stupid. I feel he's not giving this enough time and since he's only been away for 3 weeks that if more time goes by and he rushes this and we divorce in three months, and later figures out that was a mistake, then everyone's lives are turned upside down again. And what if I get through this and don't want HIM anymore? Then I have to go thru this emotional mess again, and I don't want to. Should I just let this rest for a couple months and see what happens or should I give him what he wants? I just feel like this is all happening so fast and with two children involved it should be given more time to make certain that it's the right thing and there won't be any going back. So what should I do? Stop crying, stop asking him to come home, i'm doing, but, do I give him a few months without him realizing it to see what happens or do I just quit and let this all go?

05-07-2008, 06:59 PM	#1 (permalink)
heatbrokenmom Registered User Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 9	afraid there's no hope I have tried over the past several days to give my husband space, not argue but at the same time my heart feels like it's exploding and I am so miserable without him. Last night he sat down with me and said we should talk. He has been gone for 3 weeks and does not miss me. He thought he would but he doesn't. I didn't know what to say, who does? He still is willing to go to talk to someone because he feels that we argue too much and that with everything changing we need to work on that for us and the kids. I agree. But, I don't agree that this is the right thing to do. Being together for 10 years and then just not even trying to see if any feelings can be regained to me is just stupid. I feel he's not giving this enough time and since he's only been away for 3 weeks that if more time goes by and he rushes this and we divorce in three months, and later figures out that was a mistake, then everyone's lives are turned upside down again. And what if I get through this and don't want HIM anymore? Then I have to go thru this emotional mess again, and I don't want to. Should I just let this rest for a couple months and see what happens or should I give him what he wants? I just feel like this is all happening so fast and with two children involved it should be given more time to make certain that it's the right thing and there won't be any going back. So what should I do? Stop crying, stop asking him to come home, i'm doing, but, do I give him a few months without him realizing it to see what happens or do I just quit and let this all go?