shane33

From what i have read your problem is in the arguement you guys are attacking each other not bringing up valid points to base an arguement on try useing "I" statements instead of "you" see how it works for you if he is anything like me at all if something is said maybe jokingly or just said but if you flip out over what was said my guard goes up and defences come out and the attack is on before you know it the war is on. For example if he says what are you wearing its funny looking!! instead off saying shove it up ur ass your shirt is stupid looking too!! Try I don't appericiate you talking to me like that or I feel hurt because of that comment please don't say it again. Just try using the I statements and control your temper if something is said take 2 minutes and think about what u are going to say before saying it. I do believe that if you fly off the handel at comments made you are like my wife and when u start to go off we just start to hate the attidued and grow a resentment towards you because it feels like we can not even joke around with you And then it gets to the point where we just won't say anything anymore for fear of another arguement