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Originally Posted by JD80203
I am reading, journaling, praying, consulting trusted friends, and doing everything that our counselor has suggested. He said tonight that he thinks that if we pray and have faith that God can and will miraculously heal our marriage. He frequently uses God as an excuse to get out of putting forth any effort-- "if it's God's will, He'll do the work!" I believe that God can change our hearts so we can make better choices, but God gave us free will, and He respects us too much to control us like robots. He wants us to decide to do the right thing. My husband just doesn't want to have to do that hard part of doing the right thing.
1. Why does he avoid responsibility?
2. Why doesn't he recognize any wrong doing on his part?
3. Can he change? If so, how?
4. Is this even worth saving?
5. What else can I do to make this work?
Thanks for your help, please be nice.  |
Okay, first, SHOW HIM MY REPLY!
If it is God's will? No, God believes that we as individuals have the right to chose, hence heaven and hell, Jesus and Satan.
Mathew 7:7 states that we "ask and it will be given to you, seek and we shall find, Knock and it will be opened unto you". This also means that we have to go looking for the items we wish. God already provided us with his son, and only gives in accordance with faith now. This does not mean that God will force his will upon us... ever. That is why I want him to read my reply.
1. He avoids responsibility because that is what he was taught as a child.
2. He don't see any wrong because he honestly doesn't know he is wrong.
3. He can change, but the only way he will change is through your support. He will change if you show him that he is wrong, and that he has no other option, because your not going to sit idly by and let him ruin your finances.
4. It is worth saving if you love him.
5. You can do nothing. He has to be the one to do the changing. He will need your support though.
Oh, and the get over it comment.... GROW UP Mr Insensitive. She's been through more in five years than you've been through your entire life.