heatbrokenmom

His sense of humor is a bit twisted. The things he says are very hurtful and he zeros in on things that will automatically push my buttons. One day last week we were talking about money and he said to me " Do you want me to add that up for you?" Why would someone say that? It was a smart remark and I do suck at math but, it was still a belittling comment to make. You don't take things that a person is bad at and use it to make them feel worse. I have a strong feeling that things about himself will come up in our sessions that he won't want to deal with and I'm a little worried. I think that besides our marital problems, he may have some issues of his own that he needs to deal with. He says things that are hurtful so in return I do too, but I feel bad about it after but still mad that he said something so nasty to me. He gets irritated with me, says I see things black and white, and he gets frustrated because he's highly intelligent and I'm not. I'm not stupid but I wasn't in special advanced classes in school and my IQ isn't over 180 like his is. I just want to be like, what made you fall in love with me? I just don't get it at all. I don't get any of this.