 Re: Troubled Marriage of 3 years
I think that you are very justified to be hurt by the trash her mother talks about you.
Of course her mother is mad. She is used to being able to be mean to her husband, rule her daughter, bad mouth anyone she wants and get away with it.
It truly I shame that you acted on the information you gathered by recording the conversations. If you had waited until you calmed down and sought wise advise you might have been able to use the information to change your situation more easily.
But on the other hand, your MIL definitely deserved you blowing up on her. You are probably the only person who has stood up to her nonsense.
What you might want to do now is to start courting your wife. Start doing things with her. Talk to her about the marriage issues. Is there someone who she respects who can advise her about respecting you as her husband? Someone who can tell her that it’s wrong for her to run to her mother every time there is an issue? Could you afford for your wife to have a counselor she used as someone to talk to about things in her life? She seems to need that outlet.
In your culture, you wife will feel the pressure to get back with you. If you are a kind, loving husband this is a good thing.
It sounds like you got a bit abusive with our anger. Learn to control this so taht our wife can feel safe in coming back to you.
Marriage, like life, is a journey. This could just be a bump in the road if you and your wife use it to end the interference of her mother in your marriage. Fight for your wife and your marriage.
This is what love and marriage is about.
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