Hey Cantthinkof username.... I grew up with 5 sisters, very easy for me to talk to women, and many women found it easy to talk to me, I am still friends with all my Ex girlfriends, Female HS friends, women I met through life.
One of the reasons my wife and I are so strong, is neither one of us are jealous people, plus we trust each other.
Plus people send out vibes, while these women talk to me about their lives, alot of times I give the male perspective. They know me so well they ask my husband is doing this...and I would be like yea, I would do the same thing, I'm a guy...they ckind of get the understanding that it's just a guy thing, and helps them out a bit thinking everything is OK.
As for my female friend whose husband got fat, not much we can do there...they have 4 kids, (2 his, 2 from first marriage) got married due to the 3rd kid being born...marriage of necessity.
I ultimately think they are doomed from talking to both of them, but it will take a while, fortunately for her, he is a really nice guy and is trying to do the "right thing" but like others, it was a necessity thing, not a "love thing" that got them married.
I am a friend, but I do keep a safe distance....emotionally. My wife tries to do the majority of the conversations with her, because she needs to vent, and I am a guy after all, with 5 isters a wife and daughter....only so much I can take
But I have learned the safe distance....But I was simply putting out the fact, Men and women can be friends, without getting into a physical relationship.
As for throwing under the bus, just seems like the first three posts were pretty negative about her, yea bad spot, but she is looking for help, not to be told she is wrong, she knows that.
Bottom line, Bob must go.