Originally Posted by Clickclick
I have read a lot of posts on "talk about marriage" regarding lack of sex or a spouse that is limited in sexual actions.
I feel that sex and all other marital duties (clean house, cook, mow lawn, etc...) are all of equal value.
So, what if... What if wife says "NO" to certain sexual actions (oral, anal, etc...), but the husband desires to perform those actions? What if the husband that is declined certain sexual acts says "NO" to the daily duties that the other spouse desires (help around the house, pay bills, etc...)? What if each time the wife requests a specific daily duty around the home to be performed...and the spouse says "NO" verbally the same way that the wife says "NO" in bed? What if the husband does the ultimate basics around the home?
Wouldn't that be fair?
No, it wouldnt. UNLESS, she was holding out the sex altogether.
And then you have to find out WHY.
But to perform specific sex acts such as oral, anal, etc, is something that should have been discussed BEFORE marriage.
Did you guys have oral and or anal while dating? If so then why has it stopped?