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Pluto2 · 06-06-2012, 01:36 PM

Stoppedwatch, I've been where you are, my STBXH suffers from recurrent major depression/anxiety disorder. I got to the point where I said get help or I'm getting a divorce. He did nothing and I thought that was that. My primary care physician told me to make an appt. with a MC because he may not be able to make a call for help. I did. The MC asked what will it take for me to stay in the marriage. I said he had to get help, he had to take responsibility for his treatment, and I had to see effort. That did get him help. Do not assume that he understands at ALL how unhappy you are. You have to say "I am out of here if you don't get help." Of course since I'm saying my "STBXH" MC didn't help us in the end. Neither did his multiple affairs he started, but that's a different story.

I agree with JoeRockStar to a degree. Not every med will help everybody. My H started on one that did absolutely nothing-it may as well have been a tic-tac. But after about two months they found a combination that did help his symptoms. His depression became severe enough that he was having periods of psychosis and those have stopped.
Depression is a sadly selfish disease. The person suffering with it only sees himself, and his diseased mind cannot, will not, consider how anything they do or say will impact another individual.
Best of luck to you and stay strong, this will not be easy.

06-06-2012, 01:36 PM	#3 (permalink)
Pluto2 Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Posts: 475	Re: When to call time? Stoppedwatch, I've been where you are, my STBXH suffers from recurrent major depression/anxiety disorder. I got to the point where I said get help or I'm getting a divorce. He did nothing and I thought that was that. My primary care physician told me to make an appt. with a MC because he may not be able to make a call for help. I did. The MC asked what will it take for me to stay in the marriage. I said he had to get help, he had to take responsibility for his treatment, and I had to see effort. That did get him help. Do not assume that he understands at ALL how unhappy you are. You have to say "I am out of here if you don't get help." Of course since I'm saying my "STBXH" MC didn't help us in the end. Neither did his multiple affairs he started, but that's a different story. I agree with JoeRockStar to a degree. Not every med will help everybody. My H started on one that did absolutely nothing-it may as well have been a tic-tac. But after about two months they found a combination that did help his symptoms. His depression became severe enough that he was having periods of psychosis and those have stopped. Depression is a sadly selfish disease. The person suffering with it only sees himself, and his diseased mind cannot, will not, consider how anything they do or say will impact another individual. Best of luck to you and stay strong, this will not be easy.