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Whathappened · 05-08-2008, 10:12 PM

I started dating my wife 5 yrs ago today. We have been married for 6 months on the 17. She is talking about leaving me.

Before we got engaged it was extrememly difficult for me to trust her. I realized that the reason for that was my unwillingness to completly commit. It wasn't that I didnt trust her with the things I blamed her for that she never did. I didnt trust her with my heart. I made an active decision to trust her with all i am. To give her everything I have and desire to be. Then I married her.

When we were married we both knew that I would be overseas for the next year. I knew it wouldnt be easy. I didnt know that she would suddenly have doubts about being my wife. I know my wife is faithful, caring and wonderful. I love her more than I can express. She told me shes thinking about leaving me. Not for someone else. Not for some act of infidelity. Im not sure what happened. I dont understand it. She says that we are not compatible anymore. I havent changed...as far as I can tell she hasnt either. We are both faithful to each other.

I dont know what to do. I dont know what to say. How can i fix something like this? I didnt do anything but love her. I finally find someone I know I can spend my life with...and...shes going to leave me for reasons i cant even pretend to understand.

Im drinking too much lately. I act like its no big deal. Hell I act like my wife and I have a perfect relationship and that I just like to drink. The truth is I think Im losing her and drinking numbs the pain. I just wanna hold her in my arms and have her look at me the way she did when I first told her I love her.

Does anyone have any ideas what am I supposed to say to her. How am I supposed to talk about this and what the hell is she thinking?

05-08-2008, 10:12 PM	#1 (permalink)
Whathappened Registered User Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 2	I just need to talk to someone I started dating my wife 5 yrs ago today. We have been married for 6 months on the 17. She is talking about leaving me. Before we got engaged it was extrememly difficult for me to trust her. I realized that the reason for that was my unwillingness to completly commit. It wasn't that I didnt trust her with the things I blamed her for that she never did. I didnt trust her with my heart. I made an active decision to trust her with all i am. To give her everything I have and desire to be. Then I married her. When we were married we both knew that I would be overseas for the next year. I knew it wouldnt be easy. I didnt know that she would suddenly have doubts about being my wife. I know my wife is faithful, caring and wonderful. I love her more than I can express. She told me shes thinking about leaving me. Not for someone else. Not for some act of infidelity. Im not sure what happened. I dont understand it. She says that we are not compatible anymore. I havent changed...as far as I can tell she hasnt either. We are both faithful to each other. I dont know what to do. I dont know what to say. How can i fix something like this? I didnt do anything but love her. I finally find someone I know I can spend my life with...and...shes going to leave me for reasons i cant even pretend to understand. Im drinking too much lately. I act like its no big deal. Hell I act like my wife and I have a perfect relationship and that I just like to drink. The truth is I think Im losing her and drinking numbs the pain. I just wanna hold her in my arms and have her look at me the way she did when I first told her I love her. Does anyone have any ideas what am I supposed to say to her. How am I supposed to talk about this and what the hell is she thinking?