Originally Posted by momtwo4
Wow. Since when did sex become a tit for tat exercise? I understand your frustration, but I think that that attitude would backfire. If my husband felt like he wasn't getting enough sex, I hope he would communicate that to me instead of acting out like a child. Sex loses its beauty when it becomes all about meeting your needs and getting what you want out of it.
As TAG said, this type of action should be taken after discussions have failed (as they did in my case). My wife and I have had numerous talks, read books, counseling blah, blah, blah. Things got better for a while and then back to the same old same old.
I got some results by NOT doing some of the little things she enjoyed as noted earlier. Also, by not doing these things and intiating less, I've detached myself somewhat from the situation and feel less neglected because of it