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card1006 · 05-09-2008, 10:10 AM

I am 37yr old male and have been married 12 years. We have two daughters together and until recently I thought I had a pretty good marriage. I found out with was having an emotional affair with an old high school friend for the past four months. She has stopped and we have started counseling.

She says that she really hasn't been happy for the past few years. She says that she doesn't feel a connection anymore. When we kiss or hug she doesn't feel anything. She loves me, but not in love but she wants to get the feeling back again or at least she says so.

She thinks I am a great Dad and a good husband most of the time but doesn't think I supported her emotionally in the past. I don't really agree with her opinion. She suffers from depression and sleeps a lot. She holds resentment towards me because of comments I would make and said she felt like I didn't undertand her depression. I feel like I tried but it is very hard living with someone who is depressed. She is on medication and I do love her so does anyone have suggestion on how to reconnect?

Sometimes I feel the more I try by being supportive and caring the more I push her away. I mean how can you try and love someone and treat them with appreciation when they don't have the same feelings?

Should I try to show her how much I love and care or should I back off and give some space?

05-09-2008, 10:10 AM	#1 (permalink)
card1006 Registered User Join Date: May 2008 Location: KY Posts: 5	How do I reconnect? I am 37yr old male and have been married 12 years. We have two daughters together and until recently I thought I had a pretty good marriage. I found out with was having an emotional affair with an old high school friend for the past four months. She has stopped and we have started counseling. She says that she really hasn't been happy for the past few years. She says that she doesn't feel a connection anymore. When we kiss or hug she doesn't feel anything. She loves me, but not in love but she wants to get the feeling back again or at least she says so. She thinks I am a great Dad and a good husband most of the time but doesn't think I supported her emotionally in the past. I don't really agree with her opinion. She suffers from depression and sleeps a lot. She holds resentment towards me because of comments I would make and said she felt like I didn't undertand her depression. I feel like I tried but it is very hard living with someone who is depressed. She is on medication and I do love her so does anyone have suggestion on how to reconnect? Sometimes I feel the more I try by being supportive and caring the more I push her away. I mean how can you try and love someone and treat them with appreciation when they don't have the same feelings? Should I try to show her how much I love and care or should I back off and give some space?