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I hope you have your big girl pants on because over here..cheating spouses usually get told the cold hard truth.
I'll give it to you "lite" because they are much better than I am about articulating this stuff.
If you were unhappy about your marriage before the affair you should have left. It seems by your post that your using tough times to justify what you did. That doesn't at all seem remorseful.
It doesn't matter that you were seperated. I know that sounds weird but it's true I think in this case. Because before you reconciled you should have told him about the other man. The fact that you held on to that bit of info for 3 months automatically makes him think that the previous 8 years of accusing you of lying to him was justified.
I let the others talk to you about the triggering more in depth. But let's just say you have no idea the hell he's going through. But do you really care? Or are you more interested in getting him to stop bothering you about it? That's how your post comes across.