confusedinTX

Thanks for the replies. On the strip club thing I took a relaxed stance on it before it became a probem and during one fight during this period he said he was going to strip clubs because he knew i didn;t want him to go which hurt. When I called him on the fact he was doing it to hurt me and tried to find out why he claimed he was not doing it to hurt me....

The adultfriendfinder thing bothered me the most out of all the online stuff. Other sites you go to you can just be looking for friendship or even dating but this one if to find people to sleep with. Bad enough but then presenting himself as signle and looking for a relationship. Still makes me feel sick even though I don't think he acted on anything and he didnt seem to log in much (when I found out he hadn't logged in for over a month).

This stuff is coming up again because he went on a boys weekend in Mexico and came back and told me basically nothing about the trip so I looked in his wallet (not something I am proud of). I just feel like it should not ne too much to ask to tell me what they did. Before he left I went downtown with my girlfriends and told him about the whole night. I just feel like if he had been open and told me more stuff about the trip I would have had to wonder what he was hiding. He of course thinks I should just trust him and he shouldn't have to tell me anything. The Vegas trip he took a few months after the big blowup over adultfriendfinder was like this too. I knew he went to a strip club and got lapdances though because someone who went with him told me. His response to that was what happens in vegas stays in vegas. That was it for me and I told him I was moving out until we set up counseling or got a divorce. He said we would do the later so I went home and 2 weeks after found out I was pregnant with our first. I took it as a sign that we were meant to stay together and didn't push the counseling issue. Stupid on my part. Anyhow I have suggested we go now and he is blowing me off.