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pigpen · 05-09-2008, 10:48 PM

I have to agree with Draconis. It is so easy to say we "listen" .

But I think one of the things so many of us are really missing is someone with whom we can really sound off to without fear of ridicule or appearing weak. We don't want advice. We want a big hug and a cup of tea. Empathy indeed!

I was just reading about mirroring and I think this technique could be really helpful. Basically you just begin by letting the other person talk and then paraphrasing what they have said back. In this way the other person knows you have heard them but also, by paraphrasing you have to carefully think about what they have really said. This helps you to understand them better.

05-09-2008, 10:48 PM	#5 (permalink)
pigpen Member Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 46	Re: How do I reconnect? I have to agree with Draconis. It is so easy to say we "listen" . But I think one of the things so many of us are really missing is someone with whom we can really sound off to without fear of ridicule or appearing weak. We don't want advice. We want a big hug and a cup of tea. Empathy indeed! I was just reading about mirroring and I think this technique could be really helpful. Basically you just begin by letting the other person talk and then paraphrasing what they have said back. In this way the other person knows you have heard them but also, by paraphrasing you have to carefully think about what they have really said. This helps you to understand them better.