confusedinTX

Not wanting kids when he did is not something to be sorry about. Having kids is hard and puts a lot of stress on a marriageand having them when you aren't ready is harder. You maybe could have handled it better at the time but all you can do now is try to fix things. Wanting kids doesn't make you selfish but pushing it on him is what he was doing to you.

Lots of people say they want a divorce or don't love the other person but if their actions don't say that then the words might be empty. Sounds like there is nothing stopping him from leaving so if he really wanted to he would. Fight for your marriage and get it solid. Then having kids will be a joy for both of you. Bringing kids into an unsteady relationship is horrible for you and them. Hang in there.