| | Re: How to get affection, intimacy, words, something....
I'm here reading all the responses and I'm pondering. I believe it's totally fixable. He wants to do whatever he has to in order to make me happy. What he wants most is a happy wife.
I needed more than anything I think is encouragement. My whole family is scared of me. It's not just my husband - its my kids too. I've got a legacy of being an angry, depressed woman to live down. Even though I haven't been that person for a long time my kids still remember it. I'm working to get them to open up and trust me again. Thats a little easier than my husband. They WANT to trust me. They WANT to be close to me. All they need is to know that it's safe and they run into my arms. My husband is a bit more hesitant.
We've come a long way as a family. I had no idea how far reaching depression was until it was gone. I'm a new person but what I failed to see is they are still responding as if I'm the old me.
THAT is what I need help overcoming. Or I should say helping them overcome it.