| | Re: Wife v. Family
It IS a big deal, and in order to make it work both parties must be willing to compromise. You're stuck in the middle but, remember, the only person you can control is yourself. You can't control your whole family or your wife. So if they're not willing to compromise you have a major balancing act to concern yourself with.
Also, if people "ganged up" on her and none of your family took her side, the question to ask is did "her side" present a reasonable argument, or did she just get what she deserved. If she got what she deserved, then you may be in a very unfortunate position of not being able to smooth it out. These are all general statements because there are no facts in your story.
How are other people towards her? Your friends? Neighbors? Do people generally like her or do they treat her the same way your family does? That can say a lot about her as a person.