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dcrim · 08-22-2009, 04:09 PM

Of course he has feelings for her. I understand his "feelings" for her. She's the sister he never had! I love my daughter and would do anything or be anywhere for her. Do I want intimacy? uh, no (nor would I my sister).

You may be over reacting a little. Can you get your mind around the idea she IS his sister? His phone response is very telling...he loves her AS A SISTER! He loves YOU as a life mate!

As far as "every second"...your remarks may have turned him off of you (for a bit) and he's giving his (sisterly!) love to her because he doesn't think your love is supporting him.

I will agree that he should re-order his priorities. With you first. But as "family" you should understand his "need" to support her.

if he was going to take her to bed, he'd have done it long ago. You know this. He didn't. He chose you.

Apologize to the best of your ability and try to support him (as he supports her).

08-22-2009, 04:09 PM	#2 (permalink)
dcrim Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Republic (in the Ozarks), MO Posts: 1,395	Re: Does my husband have feelings for her? Or am I just a horrible person? Of course he has feelings for her. I understand his "feelings" for her. She's the sister he never had! I love my daughter and would do anything or be anywhere for her. Do I want intimacy? uh, no (nor would I my sister). You may be over reacting a little. Can you get your mind around the idea she IS his sister? His phone response is very telling...he loves her AS A SISTER! He loves YOU as a life mate! As far as "every second"...your remarks may have turned him off of you (for a bit) and he's giving his (sisterly!) love to her because he doesn't think your love is supporting him. I will agree that he should re-order his priorities. With you first. But as "family" you should understand his "need" to support her. if he was going to take her to bed, he'd have done it long ago. You know this. He didn't. He chose you. Apologize to the best of your ability and try to support him (as he supports her). __________________ It ain't illegal until you're caught!