| | Re: What's an EA?
Originally Posted by The Renegade
Totally agree with what you're saying. I also think it is the honest and honorable thing to do to break up a relationship that one doesn't see fit anymore before any affair starts.
And that's quite obvious when it comes to PAs. The understanding of what an EA is compared to a close friendship, however, seems to vary. Some partners are more tolerant than others.
And that is also to follow up on Maricha's post. I've been once in a relationship some time ago where she aimed to control every contact I had on the outside (actually cut it off). She saw an affair in everything where I had no intentions whatsoever. Therefore, I mentioned, it's probably not always a no-brainer to follow what your partner is concerned with.
You wrote that in your post. Discussing it, not necessarily accepting what the other one sees as law. So, I believe, we are on the same track here.
Not sure what you are saying exactly but just to be clear one does not wait to intervene after a PA. One needs to intervene before unfaithfulness. When things are inappropriate. The best way to deal with this is to not play the game at all. Having opposite sex friends is ok. Having close ones is just too much risk if your marriage is #1. If the marriage is not so important then fine. You might get lucky.
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