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Almeron · 05-11-2008, 05:22 AM

Hey all, new here. I've looked browsed around the forums a bit, but obviously, my situation is mine alone.

My wife and i were married young (both of us just 20), but we had been close friends for many years before that. She left an abusive relationship to be with me, and the both of us were deeply in love. We have been together for about 4 years now, with very few issues at all, we never yell, our sexual relationship (although intimate and private) is good and healthy, and we have always had many of the same interests.
I was happier with her than i ever thought i could be.
A month or so ago, my wife started hanging out with our friends late at night (she has always been a bit of a night owl) and many times, i would either opt not to go, or be told that she wanted to just talk with the girls. Obviously, after a while i started seeing a change, i tried to get her to talk to me but she assured me everything was okay. Just recently, it finally came to light, she had been slowly falling for another friend of ours, and was now horribly torn about weather she loved this person, or me. we tried for a while to work things out, but last night we finally came to it. She says that she just dosn't feel the same about me any more, but she feels horrible about it. For all these years i've given every bit of my heart to her, i love her so much i would do anything for her, and i don't want to lose her.
She says she dosn't understand why she all of a sudden does not love me any more. Is it all because this friend of ours payed a little more attention to her for a week (he's only just 20 years old now and i really don't beleive that he loves her)?
She hasn't cheeted on me, and we both feel that we should try to work this out, what we had was so deep an emotion for both of us to just give up.
Is there any hope of restoring what we had? how do you just not love someone after 4 years of happyness? What can i do to save this? I don't want to be with anyone after her, and i told her that no matter what, i'd always love her and would take her back if it didn't go well.
What else can we do to try to restore what she felt for me?

Thanks and blessings all

05-11-2008, 05:22 AM	#1 (permalink)
Almeron Registered User Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 2	I don't want it to be over Hey all, new here. I've looked browsed around the forums a bit, but obviously, my situation is mine alone. My wife and i were married young (both of us just 20), but we had been close friends for many years before that. She left an abusive relationship to be with me, and the both of us were deeply in love. We have been together for about 4 years now, with very few issues at all, we never yell, our sexual relationship (although intimate and private) is good and healthy, and we have always had many of the same interests. I was happier with her than i ever thought i could be. A month or so ago, my wife started hanging out with our friends late at night (she has always been a bit of a night owl) and many times, i would either opt not to go, or be told that she wanted to just talk with the girls. Obviously, after a while i started seeing a change, i tried to get her to talk to me but she assured me everything was okay. Just recently, it finally came to light, she had been slowly falling for another friend of ours, and was now horribly torn about weather she loved this person, or me. we tried for a while to work things out, but last night we finally came to it. She says that she just dosn't feel the same about me any more, but she feels horrible about it. For all these years i've given every bit of my heart to her, i love her so much i would do anything for her, and i don't want to lose her. She says she dosn't understand why she all of a sudden does not love me any more. Is it all because this friend of ours payed a little more attention to her for a week (he's only just 20 years old now and i really don't beleive that he loves her)? She hasn't cheeted on me, and we both feel that we should try to work this out, what we had was so deep an emotion for both of us to just give up. Is there any hope of restoring what we had? how do you just not love someone after 4 years of happyness? What can i do to save this? I don't want to be with anyone after her, and i told her that no matter what, i'd always love her and would take her back if it didn't go well. What else can we do to try to restore what she felt for me? Thanks and blessings all