Cindy

Just tell him you realize why he feels rejected and ask him what can you do to make him fall in love with you again. He may have other issues with you that you don't realize.

He still loves you otherwise he would be gone. It's just the only way he can communicate that feeling to you, that he's spent, he doesn't have butterflies, etc. He may not want divorce but just doesn't see any other option. I would drop the subject of children.

It's so frustrating to see how you both want children but have such a hard time just getting there. Tell him you are willing to work on your respect for him (b/c girl, that was harsh and disrespect to a man is like castration esp when he didn't deserve it) and gently ask him to forgive you and drop the resentment.

Kids don't matter at this point, you guys have to become one unit again. Besides, let the love flow...trust me, babies will come.