Cindy

Wow, I'm so sorry, that must be so hard. I really hate how "divorce" seems to be such an easy word to throw around. It can be so hurtful. It should always be last resort.

I wouldn't worry too much about his attitude going into counseling. I see it as a man's general attitude in going to the doctor, Ugh! Since you guys have tried different things and they haven't helped, he's discouraged in thinking this might work. Don't badger him about it. He's willing to go which is the important thing.

Think of it as, the things you've tried already were like taking a vitamin for your marriage and now you realize you need antibiotics! Keep your chin up and have faith that you will work it out. You're not alone, several families go through this, and they make it. You will too. Best wishes.