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moxy · 06-09-2012, 08:58 PM

If it were up to me, stbxh and I would have sex twice a day. Alas, I could only get it out of him twice a month because he was getting it every day elsewhere. I spent a lot of time feeling enormously frustrated because I'm not disloyal and was dissatisfied, so I felt very deeply betrayed by his choices -- firstly because he was cheating and secondly because he was cheating so much while leaving me to suffer which was at my expense. Feeling so rejected has killed my sex drive and while I could have lots of NSA sex if I wanted, I find myself disinclined. I always want it, but I'm emotionally paralyzed about seeking it out now. Sex drives are impacted by all kinds of things -- innate disposition, confidence, hormone and diet, hydration levels, emotional connection, stress. Figuring out what you generally want is a good place to start so you can consider what factors are causing you to vary. And, in my opinion, it should be one of the first thing that spouses talk about because arguments over sex and money are the two main things that can kill an otherwise good relationship.

06-09-2012, 08:58 PM	#33 (permalink)
moxy Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Posts: 1,459	Re: Women that like frequent sex with their husband If it were up to me, stbxh and I would have sex twice a day. Alas, I could only get it out of him twice a month because he was getting it every day elsewhere. I spent a lot of time feeling enormously frustrated because I'm not disloyal and was dissatisfied, so I felt very deeply betrayed by his choices -- firstly because he was cheating and secondly because he was cheating so much while leaving me to suffer which was at my expense. Feeling so rejected has killed my sex drive and while I could have lots of NSA sex if I wanted, I find myself disinclined. I always want it, but I'm emotionally paralyzed about seeking it out now. Sex drives are impacted by all kinds of things -- innate disposition, confidence, hormone and diet, hydration levels, emotional connection, stress. Figuring out what you generally want is a good place to start so you can consider what factors are causing you to vary. And, in my opinion, it should be one of the first thing that spouses talk about because arguments over sex and money are the two main things that can kill an otherwise good relationship. __________________ "He who accepts evil without protesting against it is really cooperating with it." -Martin Luther King, Jr. "“We first crush people to the earth, & then claim the right of trampling on them forever, because they are prostrate." -Lydia Maria Child.