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Originally Posted by southbound  Is it something that just seems normal for you and you never gave it much thought, or does it take a lot of relationship work to do it? |
I’ve always been HD and love sex. For me it does not take a lot of relationship work for there to be sex.
I love how it makes me feel, during and after. And I love making my partner feel good, very good. Doing this for him makes sex more enjoyable for me.
When I was younger I did not think about it because I thought that everyone was the same. I know better now.
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Originally Posted by southbound Do you ever wonder why some women have low drives, or does it make perfect sense to you? |
Yea I’ve wondered why some women have low drives. I also wonder why some men have low drives. I do not understand it and feel badly for them as they are missing something very good in life.
But let’s remember that just because a person refuses to have sex often (or ever) with their spouse might not mean that they are low drive. They might be getting their needs met elsewhere.
There are many different reasons why a person might be LD or refuse sex, too many to list here. All I can say is what a waste of one’s life to do this. And what a horrible abuse to visit on one’s spouse.
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Originally Posted by southbound Do you feel your husband has shortcomings but it just doesn't bother you enough to decrease your drive like it would some women, or is your husband just great at being great and, therefore, it keeps your drive going. |
Everyone has shortcomings. As long as there is not abuse why let silly things get in the way of a good roll in the hay?
That said, when things got really bad in the marriage I got to the point where I would not have sex with my husband. But we are talking about his adultery and emotional/physical abuse. And at that point I was ready to leave the marriage and did.
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Originally Posted by southbound Could you have sex just for the physical enjoyment, or are there always emotional needs that need to be met? |
If sex in marriage was only for physical enjoyment I think I would not like that. But yea, sometimes it’s a very emotional and intimate thing. And sometimes it’s just a physical thing. A good sex life is like a good piece of music, there are many notes, some high, some low and a lot in between… each never exactly the same.
