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AFEH · 06-10-2012, 05:10 PM

CO, your wife doesn’t respect your boundaries and so she hurts you. When she hurts you she has no remorse, empathy or compassion for you.

Sick isn’t it. And the really sick part is she could well know and be fully aware of what she does. Which if that is the case makes it even sicker.

And yet you love her. It sure is a crazy world sometimes.

When we separated I thought I was grieving at first. But the intense anger I felt and the depth of my dislike for my wife didn’t feel right for grieving. After quite a while I realised my anger and dislike came from the fact that I felt immensely betrayed by the woman I so deeply loved. You may want to look into that, to see if you do feel betrayed. It’s very different to grieving and I think we have to work through our emotions stemming from betrayal and then we get to work through our grieving.

06-10-2012, 05:10 PM	#27 (permalink)
AFEH Banned Join Date: May 2010 Posts: 4,776	Re: It's official, I'm getting divorced CO, your wife doesn’t respect your boundaries and so she hurts you. When she hurts you she has no remorse, empathy or compassion for you. Sick isn’t it. And the really sick part is she could well know and be fully aware of what she does. Which if that is the case makes it even sicker. And yet you love her. It sure is a crazy world sometimes. When we separated I thought I was grieving at first. But the intense anger I felt and the depth of my dislike for my wife didn’t feel right for grieving. After quite a while I realised my anger and dislike came from the fact that I felt immensely betrayed by the woman I so deeply loved. You may want to look into that, to see if you do feel betrayed. It’s very different to grieving and I think we have to work through our emotions stemming from betrayal and then we get to work through our grieving.