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Old 06-11-2012, 07:49 AM   #119 (permalink)
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Interesting. The response was, in essence. WW feels she has messed everything up, she doesn't deserve a decent man like me, she wants to kill herself but can't because of our kids, she deserves to be treated with contempt by me for the rest of her life, she deserves to attract and fall for a**holes like OM because she is a worthless piece of c**p. She never wants any man ever to get close to her again and the thought of sex makes her sick. . . and so on.

She did, rightly, point out my contribution to our problems, but the whole thrust was what a good person I am and how I deserve, and should find, someone better.

Feels OK right now, but I need to think.
Her response contained nothing of real value. She didn't express a willingness to change, true remorse, or empathy for your situation. It was all about her feelings and her desire to remain a victim. If you don't point this out (if you choose to respond at all) you are simply enabling her behavior.
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