Originally Posted by mab1
I am so frustrated that I accepted all her nonsense on Saturday. I'm so tempted to ring and put things right! I played a victim and I'm not happy with that at all. Problem is if I'm going dark I can't express my frustration to her until she contacts me which could be who knows when.
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You need to let that need go...she already knows you are hurting, frustrated and she doesn't care..just doesn't care.
Sometimes things will go unsaid and maybe it's better that way...write it out...and put it away for awhile....go back and read 6 months from now and feel silly about what you wrote.
It does get better....my stbxh is abusive, continues to be abusive in whatever way he can manage with limited access to me(e-mail...he doesn't even see me when he picks up the kids), has destroyed his business, handed the house over to the mortgage company, refuses to provide any type of support for his kids(even with a court order) and appears to be committing fraud all over the place to try to disguise the abuse(using preexisting injuries for personal injury lawsuits, refusing to file taxes, filing false police reports for marital property that he sold(he promised all the property to me in mediation and he reported it all stolen the following day...hmmmm) ....I should have a lot to say to him...but I don't...I stopped caring...he is a loser POS and not worth the energy....all I can do is find my own footing...try to find a job in this job market after being home with the kids for 10+ years, go back to school(when he isn't mucking up my financial aid), replace the car that he took away from me and destroyed, lose all of the protective layers I put on while married to him, regain my sense of humor, learn to assert my opinion again without fear, make friends, reconnect with family and just sit back and wait for karma to do it's job....the OW is already dealing with an OW of her own and we are still months away from the divorce being final...and everything he does to hurt me...only hurts him(and the OW) in the short term and long term. While he is desperately trying to avoid CS and alimony based on 250k per year...he is losing everything he built up while riding out the divorce on his GF's couch playing xbox.