Chopblock

Thank you Cindy, you make some excellent points. I remember her talking about vague stuff in the past, but never getting specific. While I'm perplexed, (given how sexually intense she was during the first part of our relationship) that these ghosts are reason to withhold now, I'll remain open to the possibility.

What you said about your husband not being responsible for atoning for someone elses crime is excellent. I feel I have given way too much to be held responsible for what someone else did.

I do hate being made to feel like I'm wrong for wanting sex with my partner, and not being told why.