headgonnaxplode

I figured I would get some feedback pertaining to the type of fights that occur with my wife. We've been married for a few years and most of the time are pretty much on the same page and enjoy each other's company. However, occasionally my wife acts just completely crazy is the only way I can describe it. I don't know if she has hormone issues or if this is just normal level of crazy and something you have to deal with in marriage. Anyway, I try to handle it but at a certain point the insanity truly makes my head feel like it is going to explode and I just want to get away from her...unfortunately that is something I'm not allowed to do. If a fight ever crops up and I try to say I don't want to fight or I try to go outside or something that usually makes it worse.

Anyway the latest event went as follows:

We both work and so we both have "chores" around the house. We alternate cooking nights etc.

Anyway, the morning was going great, we have a normal walk and then she asks if I want to go grocery shopping with her. She knows I don't. That is one of her "chores" and like I said she is well aware that it is something I have no interest in doing. Anyway, this being the 3rd "chore" of hers she'd tried to get me to do with her in the past week I said, "Why are you trying to share your chores with me?"

And that was it. She immediately got very defensive and even started with the guilt trips of how she was just trying to spend time with me and I was making her feel bad by saying that...

Once I could tell it was headed for a fight and did the usual, look I don't want to fight, what I said wasn't offensive, I'm not sure how you are making that sound so offensive but I'm not going to spend the day fighting. At this point she continues to argue and try to explain how I hurt her feelings and don't I want to know how she feels. Finally, I said I can't believe that I'm not allowed to make that comment about you wanting to share chores without having to hear this lecture about how I hurt your feelings and I go outside.

Immediately I hear bangs and loud noises in the house...go back inside, shes thrown a show into a wall and made a hole and she apparently also took my work laptop bag and slammed it into a wall as all the stuff is scattered about (luckily laptop wasn't in it) and scratches are all over the wall.

She immediately curses me and says look what I did because you don't care about my feelings...

If I'd done this as a man I would be accused of having an anger issue and perhaps violent etc. This isn't the first time she's thrown something at the walls.

I think she has a hormonal issue, there is no other way to explain the incredible emotional swings.

Or is this normal amount of female crazy?

Thanks