| | Re: My gut is at it again...2yrs later
The STD test is one way I thought about bringing up the subject...not sure if it's the best way, but it certainly would pushing things into a 'conversation'.
She (As many in this country) don't like the use of condoms. And since she's older (And can't get pregnant that easily) she is less worried. When we have sex, no condoms and all 'ordinance' is released on the inside (I have no other way of putting it).
Bringing up whether I need to get tested or not might push her to answer questions that need to be answered. I'll get one anyways.
The guy in questions, being a guy I know that it's hard to turn down sex from a beautiful woman, is just not that kind of guy. Just writing that I know how stupid it sounds...but his responses to her messages were always very polite and to the point, asking how 'I' was doing in many of them. I would think he would go to our minister (We have the same minister) and he (Knowing my story) would caution him. My minister isn't bound by any law and I believe he would come to me (Since we were friends way before he became a minister) and let me know something was happening that I should look at....but I've read enough, heard enough, seen enough to know that what seems impossible is actually possible...it sucks...
Since finding her underwear I've been getting more text messages from her as well...not the norm.
As far as a VAR...nothing could happen at our apartment. My schedule is all over the place and there's no way for her to get away with anything here. And since we don't have a car, the VAR and GPS are a no go.
Thought about a keylogger, but the thing is I can access her email on her computer. She's not that dumb. Her Facebook, she was careless, but the rest she leaves open.
Her phone...that's the problem. She works for the phone company and knows how the phones work. It's part of her job. In the 'good days' she would talk about how she would have to explain to customers calling in how to 'hide' certain information. She's an expert and would be able to hide anything from me on her phone. This country prides itself on being able to keep it's customers secrets...nothing is more important. She knows how so even if I ask to see her phone, there would be no real point. She'd get away with it.
As for a PI...if I had the energy, wanted to waste the money, I would...but I just don't. I'd rather just leave...and this is how I'm feeling now. I just don't know how exactly.