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Lone Star · 06-12-2012, 08:04 AM

It's been a while since I have been here. I'm quite busy working two jobs. The latest big lie from my STBXH was to our son. Our son graduated from high school last weekend. His father was planning to be here on Friday afternoon the day before graduation. On Wednesday before graduation his father tells him that he has to work on Friday and will not be in town until very late, therefore he would have to see him for a few hours before graduation on Saturday. With the lovely internet the lie was revealed. What really happened is the STBXH's girlfriends sister was shot and killed on Monday and her funeral was on Friday morning. My son's father lied to him so that he would not know that someone else was first in his life. The STBXH was given a choice, either you tell your son the truth or someone else will. So he calls our son and gives him some excuse about the funeral arrangements were not comfirmed until Wednesday morning (which is when he told our son he had to work). I went through high levels of anger over this. The very idea that you would tell such a ball face lie to your own son!! So the STBXH arrives in town about 7pm on Friday. He must have left the funeral as soon as it was over. He gets to town and our son is stressed out, shutting down. Our son then cancels his visit with his father for Friday evening but spends a few hours with him on Saturday morning. My son was in a terrible mood for several days after this incident. My son has openly admitted that he doesn't want to know the truth, but this time I don't think there was any way for him to deny it. My son is better now that his father and come and gone. It is absolutely amazing how much cheaters lie and place their families in last place. My STBXH told my other son just how sweet his girlfriend and her family is. That son was very upset and hurt. He said that statement was the final knife in his heart. So needless to say, this has all been very upsetting but I am trying to get back on track and keep moving forward. I just don't understand the lie about working. He could have told our son he had to go to a funeral and our son would have never asked who it was. He could have atleast lied and said it was a co-worker or something. I am so very tired of lies and I have no idea how I will ever trust another man again.

06-12-2012, 08:04 AM	#1 (permalink)
Lone Star Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: Texas Posts: 193	Cheaters never stop lying It's been a while since I have been here. I'm quite busy working two jobs. The latest big lie from my STBXH was to our son. Our son graduated from high school last weekend. His father was planning to be here on Friday afternoon the day before graduation. On Wednesday before graduation his father tells him that he has to work on Friday and will not be in town until very late, therefore he would have to see him for a few hours before graduation on Saturday. With the lovely internet the lie was revealed. What really happened is the STBXH's girlfriends sister was shot and killed on Monday and her funeral was on Friday morning. My son's father lied to him so that he would not know that someone else was first in his life. The STBXH was given a choice, either you tell your son the truth or someone else will. So he calls our son and gives him some excuse about the funeral arrangements were not comfirmed until Wednesday morning (which is when he told our son he had to work). I went through high levels of anger over this. The very idea that you would tell such a ball face lie to your own son!! So the STBXH arrives in town about 7pm on Friday. He must have left the funeral as soon as it was over. He gets to town and our son is stressed out, shutting down. Our son then cancels his visit with his father for Friday evening but spends a few hours with him on Saturday morning. My son was in a terrible mood for several days after this incident. My son has openly admitted that he doesn't want to know the truth, but this time I don't think there was any way for him to deny it. My son is better now that his father and come and gone. It is absolutely amazing how much cheaters lie and place their families in last place. My STBXH told my other son just how sweet his girlfriend and her family is. That son was very upset and hurt. He said that statement was the final knife in his heart. So needless to say, this has all been very upsetting but I am trying to get back on track and keep moving forward. I just don't understand the lie about working. He could have told our son he had to go to a funeral and our son would have never asked who it was. He could have atleast lied and said it was a co-worker or something. I am so very tired of lies and I have no idea how I will ever trust another man again.