martino

Hi,

Thank you for your thoughtful comments, I agree with Drax that I need to start flaunting what i've got and keep distance, but not with the intention of showing her that I might cheat. That is almost a bullying technique that I don't agree with.

As far as the lower response, I've read " 5 Love Languages" as it was suggested by our therapist and I showed it to her and said she could read it..she never did. Anything in the therapy world freaks her out, because her father was severly depressed and suicidal and they had to do group therapy years ago when she lived at home. She relates with her own family on a very artificial and one dimensional level, my own sister told me that she loves her but that she is one dimensional, that there is something inside locked away that nobody will ever see.

I think that our relationship is something on her "to do" list in her mind. I imagine her thought process as: Get groceries, pick up son, do hubby quick so I can watch the rest of Survivor and have time to read my book. She reads novels endlessly, while our son demands attention constantly, it's like her head is buried in the sand with those books.

There's no affair going on, that I would bet on, she's just a mechanical person I think but it gets tougher to live with.

Thanks,
E