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lamaga · 06-12-2012, 11:54 AM

Ada, you are 23 and you have 2 children. What have you done about your post-secondary education? Any college? Any vocational training? What will you do if your husband leaves you next week, or dies next year? How will you support yourself?

How will you and your husband send two children to college, much less four? How will you pay for their piano lessons and their math tutors and their sports uniforms?

What have the demands of child care done to your sexual life? Do you give your husband the attention he needs, or does it all go to your children? Could that be why he is reluctant to have even more babies around?

What is missing in yourself that would be fulfilled with two more children? Not one, not three, two more. TWO. Is this a real need, or is this some girlish dream that you are trying to fulfill?

These are questions that a counselor would ask.

And you are being very unrealistic, in my opinion.

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lamaga Member Join Date: May 2012 Location: Austin TX Posts: 2,514	Re: Having a hard time coping with not having more children. Ada, you are 23 and you have 2 children. What have you done about your post-secondary education? Any college? Any vocational training? What will you do if your husband leaves you next week, or dies next year? How will you support yourself? How will you and your husband send two children to college, much less four? How will you pay for their piano lessons and their math tutors and their sports uniforms? What have the demands of child care done to your sexual life? Do you give your husband the attention he needs, or does it all go to your children? Could that be why he is reluctant to have even more babies around? What is missing in yourself that would be fulfilled with two more children? Not one, not three, two more. TWO. Is this a real need, or is this some girlish dream that you are trying to fulfill? These are questions that a counselor would ask. And you are being very unrealistic, in my opinion.