swedish

I know for me it took several times in my past where I reached out emotionally which was difficult to do and was rejected and eventually built a very strong emotional wall where I just kept my feelings to myself. My current husband has always been loving towards me, so it wasn't fair for me to be emotionally disconnected from him, he did nothing to deserve that, but once that wall is there it's very hard to break through. It took a major wake up call (me knowing if I didn't change, he would leave) to finally tell him everything that was going on in my head. We are much stronger now. I still need to work at saying what I'm thinking. I don't think the subtle approach will work with your wife. I think you need to have a serious discussion about how this is making you feel and that you need more than a temporary fix. The reason I kept to myself was out of fear...I think fear that if he knew that I wasn't as strong, confident, emotionally stable as I appeared on the outside that he couldn't/wouldn't want to deal with the real me.