Originally Posted by LostWifeCrushed
Hey now- don't just excuse the porn stuff with the "many men do" line. It is really hurtful to some women and feels as much like a betrayal as it would if your wife were lusting after other men. That said, what she has done is a million times worse than porn. Maybe a billion times worse.
The problem is, it isn't a supposed to be a contest. It is supposed to be your marriage!
You are obviously going forward with this new house --If that is the case, you should be looking forward to picking out your new house together and you are instead on edge about all of this drama, it seems like you'll be taking so much stress into this new space...
I am hoping for your sake, you can make it a sanctuary where true healing can take place.
Lost, thanks for your comments. I hear you about the porn.
I did not want the drama. The issue for me is I could list so many times my wife came up with things she was going to do and then turn around and not do it or tell me later that she only said it because that is what she thought I wanted to hear. And this is what is getting old. The lies, because that is what they are. Don't tell me that you are mending the fence with your sister and by the way I am not discussing us. I am only going there to help her through her grief. Then I find out it is all about talking about me. And then more lies about this and that. It has gotten old very fast.