Talk About Marriage - View Single Post - Wife had an emotional affair and I can't move on

Married in VA · 06-12-2012, 06:16 PM

You are going to need to verify if this has truly stopped. You posted about kids at the beginning of your post. Your wife's EA and the kids are not related and having kids is NOT a barrier to divorce if need be. There is something wrong with your wife. You need to talk with her and figure out why she has poor personal boundaries which would allow her to fall into this trap. Also, take a look in the mirror and figure out what you are doing wrong such that she would even want to go for another man. As for letting it go, it may be tough but if you are going to stay together than you are going to have to or else resentment will build and your relationship will fail and you are wasting time. For your wife:

1. She goes no contact by telling OM good bye forever in front of you followed by a no contact letter OR

2. You get an attorney and get the divorce process going. It can be stopped at any time but your wife needs to know that what she did is NOT okay and WILL NOT be tolerated.

There are no other choices as any other choice will hurt you in the future. You need to keep a good eye on her to make sure this just didn't go underground.

Also, saying you CAN'T adjust your work schedule is a load of crap. You are in FULL control of where you work and whether you work. If you need to then change your lifestyle or get a different job where your lives are more compatible. I'll take a good relationship over a career ANY day of the week.

06-12-2012, 06:16 PM	#4 (permalink)
Married in VA Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Southeast of Disorder Posts: 413	Re: Wife had an emotional affair and I can't move on You are going to need to verify if this has truly stopped. You posted about kids at the beginning of your post. Your wife's EA and the kids are not related and having kids is NOT a barrier to divorce if need be. There is something wrong with your wife. You need to talk with her and figure out why she has poor personal boundaries which would allow her to fall into this trap. Also, take a look in the mirror and figure out what you are doing wrong such that she would even want to go for another man. As for letting it go, it may be tough but if you are going to stay together than you are going to have to or else resentment will build and your relationship will fail and you are wasting time. For your wife: 1. She goes no contact by telling OM good bye forever in front of you followed by a no contact letter OR 2. You get an attorney and get the divorce process going. It can be stopped at any time but your wife needs to know that what she did is NOT okay and WILL NOT be tolerated. There are no other choices as any other choice will hurt you in the future. You need to keep a good eye on her to make sure this just didn't go underground. Also, saying you CAN'T adjust your work schedule is a load of crap. You are in FULL control of where you work and whether you work. If you need to then change your lifestyle or get a different job where your lives are more compatible. I'll take a good relationship over a career ANY day of the week.