Originally Posted by lamaga
Anchorwatch, be sensible...what is he supposed to "expose"?
My wife really liked your husband and they traded emails?
Pshaw. This is 7th grade stuff.
OP needs to figure out what's wrong in his own marriage, not go around messing with other people.
I disagree. On the day that she was going to meet him, the OP stopped her. 7th grade would be, "He sent text messages describing what he wanted to do to her, and she told me about it." 10th grade would be "On the day that she was going to meet him, she realized how wrong this was, and came to me." The question of how easily she let this escalate, and what would have happened if an external force did not stop her will haunt the OP for some time.
I think that marriage counseling, with a counselor that you both trust, is needed quickly. In addition, if she is remorseful, transparency with all passwords should be no problem for her.